The sound of shutting the window

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‘No’ he screamed and stamped his feet . He was tired of listening and trying to understand all the time.

Tired of parents telling him what to do, with no affection when he actually tried. His little feet grew bigger, until they made the scary sound he wanted. He stamped until the ground shook and the floorboard cracked. His ‘no’ was now a real threat and the gleam in his eye of defiance lethal. He now finally got what he wanted;  Attention. His own attentive stare glared at her face. He remembered exactly how a face carved in contempt looked; His parents knew the expression exactly. Sometimes he remembered the lines in their faces so vividly that it almost felt like their girlfriend had the same look of disgust behind the contempt. Their lines superimposed on everyone else’s, almost like a lid almost fitting a box. He also remembered how they shut their windows so nobody could see their valuable assets and steal them. He knew how important it was to hide from thieves and couldn’t understand why the people at school complained over ‘he just blanked out’. Didn’t they know that was necessary to protect them from taking what is yours ?

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It’s tough being a child when navigating in a dangerous world.

‘No, I won’t accept your drama!’ He shouted. When another flinch on her reignited more memories of withdrawal, he took her thin arm and held it tight. No one could win over him anymore. He would never be weak again

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6 thoughts on “The sound of shutting the window

    brokenbutbeingrepaired said:
    May 20, 2014 at 20:43

    Really interesting post, and very touching.

    No child should need to “survive”, but all of them should be able to embrace life, guided by parents/family who prioritise the child’s welfare above all else.
    Children should be able to be weak…they are only children and shouldn’t need to be strong, brave or silent to save themselves from the world.

    x

    awax1217 said:
    May 21, 2014 at 01:20

    Children only see the aspect that they can understand. They tend not to see the big picture but only there piece of the picture. And that is affected by sleep, eating and the whim of the moment.

      mirrorgirl responded:
      May 21, 2014 at 06:20

      Thank You both for the feedback. You are so right: children think differently and need to not be treated as weak, annoying or dumb people. After working with children I had the opposite experience: they are the smartest people there is. Honest, able to be themselves in a relaxing way and so strong. Their ability to respond and experience the world is often something we long for, when we grow up, and I often have to tell my clients to find their inner children. Children are precious and must be treated that way.

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        awax1217 said:
        May 21, 2014 at 11:06

        Note that children can fall down the stairs and not break a bone. They are like cats able to twist this way and that way. We, the adults somehow lose that ability. Children look at things a different way. A simple way without agendas. By the way starting writing my second book and wonder if you would like to look at what I have so far. It is called the Jew and is about the turn of the nineteenth century. It is like the Godfather for Jews. I would be glad to send it to you if you send me an email address.

        mirrorgirl responded:
        May 21, 2014 at 11:25

        You Are absolutely right, they are so flexible in some ways, and so easily broken in others 🙂 I would absolutely love too! Send it too: forfreepsychology@gmail.com

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        awax1217 said:
        May 21, 2014 at 11:33

        It is on its way. let me know when you receive it. Hope you enjoy it and give me some feedback if you can.

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