Memories are either good or bad. Sweet or distasteful. We all have memories from our childhood, school years, the high school prom, our first marriage, first baby, etc . I’d like to think that most of us have sweet memories but in the real world, such is not the case. Not all of us had a life of roses, lollipops and sunshine.
And then there are the memories of our first boyfriend/girlfriend, marriage, divorce and divorce battle. The memories of betrayal and deceit often end up first and foremost in our minds over the sweet memories of our lives. For some reason, we cling to that horrible memory of how Sally or John cheated on us or walked out on us. It doesn’t and shouldn’t have to be that way. There are easy ways to get rid of those horrible memories once and for all.
You can shout the word, flash it in your mind, whisper it, whatever way works for you but as soon as a memory pops in your head, stop it. Tell it to stop and tell is that it has no right to come back in your mind right now or ever. Tell this memory that you only have room for new and sweeter memories. A quick and simple trigger would be to snap your fingers or give your head a quick little shake to clear your mind.
2. Take back control.
Reclaim your mind and your thoughts. Once you have stopped this thought in its tracks you need to let this memory or thought know that you are in control and there is no room for it in your life. Memories are sometimes fear based and fear portrays itself as something big and powerful when really it’s not. You are far more powerful; you’ve just forgotten that somewhere along the way.
3. Replace it with a good one.
You’ve stopped it, you’ve sent it away, now replace it with a sweet memory. Think of a happy loving time in your life. Think of one or more times that really made you feel special and loved and happy. Think of something that might have been positive or happy with that memory. Maybe the outcome wasn’t what you were hoping for but in hindsight it ’ s the best thing for you. Take a moment and smile and feel the love in your heart for the good in your life.
The mind is a very powerful tool, or in this case I should say weapon, against any form of negativity that enters it. We are always in control of our thoughts. Many of us are afraid of our own thoughts and afraid to make decisions. This comes from low self esteem and self confidence.
In the past we have made so many poor decisions that we no longer trust our own judgement. All this leads to not being able to control our minds. What happens is that we believe we deserve the torment we put ourselves through because of the poor choices we have made. We believe that we aren’t good enough for good to come into our lives and we hang on to poor memories and maintain that woe is me attitude thus blocking any chance of anything good entering o ur lives.
It’s important to remember that staying in a negative mindset or continually rehashing all the bad that happened will not get you closer to living a life of joy. When you stay in the past and keep bringing back all those old wounds, the only thing you are doing is inviting more sorrow and terrible things to happen.
Stop those memories and replace them with good ones. Remember you are absolutely deserving of all the good you want in your life. You just need to let go of the old and bad so the good can find its way to you.