Anger management 

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Next week I will start working with a client searching treatment for anger issues. I wondered if anyone in here has tips on how to manage anger?

4 thoughts on “Anger management 

    emergingfromthedarknight said:
    March 5, 2017 at 04:57

    There are some great resources out there for working with anger. It may not even be the primary emotion it could often be covering something else, such as grief.
    The books that really helped me were

    Honour Your Anger by Beverly Engel
    The Anger Solution by John Lee
    In the last book he talks of how to get in touch with what anger is about and what may have been triggered using a process you can use with a therapist or friend. I found it very helpful.

      mirrorgirl responded:
      March 5, 2017 at 08:30

      Thank you so much for the concrete tips and also writing about what one must consider in addition to managing anger. I will try to check out those books!

    kencdickson said:
    March 6, 2017 at 23:19

    In Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor’s book: My Stroke of Insight, Dr. Bolte Taylor describes how the body reacts to emotions by flooding it with neuro-chemicals and hormones in a fight or flight response. She claims that initially, there is a small dose and if you engage further, you get the big dose. The small dose will subside in less than 90 seconds, whereas the big dose will last for considerable time, perhaps a good portion of an hour.

    You can train yourself to pause when you feel that emotion and the related small dose by counting to 90 once you feel it. Refrain from doing anything but counting. Some emotions may require counting twice, but those are very rare. As you become better and better at doing this, you will find that you are not as easily riled as before.

    By practicing this technique, you are calming the fight or flight part of your brain–essentially retraining it. This part of your brain (the Amygdala) cannot understand language, so talk therapy is useless. However, techniques like this one, or CBT, and meditation can retrain it. With dedication, you will find that you rarely become angry anymore.

    Another great resource is Byron Katie’s book “Loving What is” in which she teaches readers to examine negative thoughts to determine their truthfulness using a four step process. When you convince yourself that a thought is not true, your mind loses interest in it. Consequently, the emotions tied to it fade. Over time, you will become very adept at dismissing emotional triggers and no longer get angry so quickly.

    I hope that this helps 🙂


      mirrorgirl responded:
      March 7, 2017 at 05:42

      Wow! That’s a brilliant advice and my client will probably be very happy for this information and the practical tip! I will look at the book too, I realize there is a lot to learn since I’ve mostly worked with abused victims who have been the recipient of angry behavior. It really helped, thank you so much 🙂 how are you, by the way? Is there a new book coming up? And when will you come to Norway ?

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