Different parts

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This week has been calm at work. I haven’t had many client conversations, but one of them has been very much on my mind. Usually I don’t think too much about my clients between sessions, but when I get worried about a client it’s hard not to. The client has dissociative identify disorder, and one of the parts is suicidal. The part is young and doesn’t trust other humans, understandably so. Life has been unsafe and unpredictable, so the part has done what everyone would do in a similar situation: keeping its guard up. I asked this part if he is familiar with the people in my clients life today, and my client told me he knows about them, but he doesn’t connect with them emotionally. My client has been in therapy for many years, and even if things are somewhat better, my client still suffers every day. Nightmares, lack of sleep, daily dissociative episodes, and at the moment, a feeling of hopelessness.

I wonder, how can I help this part to recognize that his circumstances are different now? That he has people in his life who care and would be shattered if he disappeared for good? How can we work together on ways to regulate the intense pain he lives with everyday, when he has no experience with coping when things gets too much?

7 thoughts on “Different parts

    Marty said:
    January 27, 2019 at 15:00

    I applaud your caring because that is an important ingredient for a client to heal.

    Trust and safety can lead relax the client and give them courage to risk and take action.

      mirrorgirl responded:
      January 27, 2019 at 20:16

      Thank you. I hope that might help somewhat, and that we will be able to explore ways to manage difficult emotions together!

    stoner on a rollercoaster said:
    April 2, 2019 at 16:41


    Hope you are doing well.

    Not sure if I have sent this request before.

    I am scheduling Mental Health Awareness re-blogs for the month of May, can I share a blog post of yours that’s related to the subject in any way.

    Your words can help educate the readers on the subject and give validation to the ones traveling in the same boat.

    Thank you! 🙂

      mirrorgirl responded:
      April 3, 2019 at 03:26

      Hi! I am doing well, thank you! I am so happy you found this post helpful and that you want to share it or other posts. I would be truly honored. I also have some reblogged posts on this blog, and some I have written myself. Just search for dissociation of that is what you want to reblog. The posts I have written myself, may contain some spelling errors.

      Have a wonderful day and feel free to reblog anything you want!

        stoner on a rollercoaster said:
        April 3, 2019 at 13:18

        spelling errors don’t matter, people understand. i would like to share something written by you, so can you suggest a post of yours that you wrote?

        mirrorgirl responded:
        April 4, 2019 at 03:40

        Maybe this post can be interesting? : https://mirrorgirlblog.wordpress.com/about/my-work-as-a-psychologist/

        It is a general post about my work as a psychologist, so that might help people come aware of what therapy is and how it might help! Let me know if this was not what you were interested in and I will try to find something else!

        Best, Nina

        stoner on a rollercoaster said:
        April 6, 2019 at 12:28

        This is awesome. A different view and I haven’t read many posts by therapists. Thanks for sharing the link 🙂

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