Three days ago I bought a audiobook about the Manson murders, which I hadn`t heard about before (or in that case, forgot). Finding updated and shocking news about him right after, feels like a coincidence too much. “Dating a sociopath” also inspired me by “coincidence” a month ago, when I wrote about finally finding my own reflection in the mirror (Read the sound of 300 heartbeats for the beginning of the saga. If you need the password, email me at forfreepsychology@gmail.com).
2013
New beginning
I am now moving my blog, but fortunately you will just be redirected to my new host. Remember to follow me there, to still get the posts.
Cheers, Nina
Merry Christmas
I have not had time to sit down and write a proper post in far too long, and must confess I miss it. Writing has been a solace to me the last year, and I have loved to write about my thoughts and ideas. Many have said they appreciate my posts about psychology, and I will work with enhancing the quality in addition to focus on interesting content in the future.
I also want to work more on my project kindness. The idea is to encourage people to do one kind act every week, preferably to a stranger. My attitude is that we have to focus on
positive behavior if we want changes
.
If we see others doing good things, we will be inspired to be good ourselves.
With that, I want to say merry Christmas to everyone! Enjoy the time with people you care about, and be sure to appreciate it. For those who have a tough time, I hope you still focus on what’s good in life ❤
Defense
People have right to defend themselves
Beyond the Borderline Personality: Projection and Borderline Personality Disorder: Part 1
It is possible to reach behind those walls, that will be there for a good reason. Behind the wall, someone wants to peek out
1. Rationalization
In psychology and logic, rationalization (or making excuses) is the process of constructing a logical justification for a belief, decision, action or lack thereof that was originally arrived at through a different mental process. It is a defense mechanism in which perceived controversial behaviors or feelings are explained in a rational or logical manner to avoid the true explanation of the behavior or feeling in question. It is also an informal fallacy of reasoning.[citation needed] This process can be in a range from fully conscious (e.g. to present an external defense against ridicule from others) to mostly subconscious (e.g. to create a block against internal feelings of guilt).
Example: A new patient comes to you for a physical examination. During the history, you note that he has been smoking two packs of cigarettes per day for twenty years. You tell him that cigarettes are harmful, and he should stop smoking. There is a reasonable likelihood that he will develop emphysema and/or lung cancer if he continues to smoke. The patient responds that both of his parents smoked their whole lives and are currently alive and in their eighties. Neither one has lung disease. He states, “I think smoking is good for you; it helps you live longer!” This patient dealing with the potential fear of smoking- induced disease through Rationalization. -Wikipedia.org
2. Identification
Identification is a psychological process whereby the subject assimilates an aspect, property, or attribute of the other and is transformed, wholly or partially, after the model the other provides. It is by means of a series of identifications that the personality is constituted and specified.
Partial identification is based on the perception of a special quality of another person. This quality or ideal is often represented in a 'leader figure' who is identified with. For example: the young boy identifies with the strong muscles of an older neighbour boy. Next to identification with the leader, people identify with others because they feel they have something in common. For example: a group of people who like the same music. This mechanism plays an important role in the formation of groups. It contributes to the development of character and the ego is formed by identification with a group (group norms). Partial identification promotes the social life of persons who will be able to identify with one another through this common bond to one another, instead of considering someone as a rival. -Wikipedia.org
3. Displacement
In psychology, displacement is an unconscious defense mechanism whereby the mind redirects affects from an object felt to be dangerous or unacceptable to an object felt to be safe or acceptable. For instance, some people punch cushions when they are angry at friends; a college student may snap at his or her roommate when upset about an exam grade. Displacement operates in the mind unconsciously and involves emotions, ideas, or wishes being transferred from their original object to a more acceptable substitute. It is most often used to allay anxiety. In scapegoating, aggression is displaced onto people with little or no connection with what is causing anger. Displacement can act in a chain-reaction, with people unwittingly becoming both victims and perpetrators of displacement. For example, a man is angry with his boss, but he cannot express this so he hits his wife. The wife hits one of the children, possibly disguising this as punishment (rationalization). -Wikipedia.org
4. Projection
According to Sigmund Freud, projection is a psychological defense mechanism whereby one “projects” one's own undesirable thoughts, motivations, desires, and feelings onto someone else. It is a common process that every person uses to some degree. To understand the process, consider a person in a couple who has thoughts of infidelity. Instead of dealing with these undesirable thoughts consciously, they unconsciously project these feelings onto the other person, and begin to think that the other has thoughts of infidelity and may be having an affair. In this sense, projection is related to denial, arguably the only defense mechanism that is more primitive than projection. Projection, like all defense mechanisms, provides a function whereby a person can protect their conscious mind from a feeling that is otherwise repulsive. Projection can also be established as a means of obtaining or justifying certain actions that would normally be found atrocious or heinous. This often means projecting false accusations, information, etc onto an individual for the sole purpose of maintaining a self created illusion. -Wikipedia.org
5. Regression
Regression, according to psychoanalyst Sigmund Freud, is a defense mechanism leading to the temporary reversion of the ego to an earlier stage of development rather than handling unacceptable impulses in a more adult way. The defense mechanism of regression, in psychoanalytic theory, occurs when thoughts are temporarily pushed back out of our consciousness and into our unconscious. Regressive behavior can be simple and harmless. A person may revert to an old, usually immature behavior to ventilate feelings of frustration. Regression only becomes a problem when it is used frequently to avoid adult situations and causes problems in the individual's life.
A clear example of regressive behavior can be seen in J.D. Salinger's The Catcher in the Rye. Holden constantly contradicts the progression of time and the aging process by reverting to childish ideas of escape, unrealistic expectations and frustration produced by his numerous shifts in behavior. His tendencies to reject responsibility and society as a whole because he 'doesn't fit in' also pushes him to prolonged use of reaction formation, unnecessary generalizations and compulsive lying. Anna Freud called this defense mechanism regression, suggesting that people act out behaviors from the stage of psychosexual development in which they are fixated. For example, an individual fixated at an earlier developmental stage might cry or sulk upon hearing unpleasant news.
Behaviors associated with regression can vary greatly depending upon which stage the person is fixated at: An individual fixated at the oral stage might begin eating or smoking excessively, or might become very verbally aggressive. A fixation at the anal stage might result in excessive tidiness or messiness. -Wikipedia.org
6. Reaction Formation
In psychoanalytic theory, reaction formation is a defensive process (defense mechanism) in which anxiety-producing or unacceptable emotions and impulses are mastered by exaggeration (hypertrophy) of the directly opposing tendency. Where reaction-formation takes place, it is usually assumed that the original, rejected impulse does not vanish, but persists, unconscious, in its original infantile form. Thus, where love is experienced as a reaction formation against hate, we cannot say that love is substituted for hate, because the original aggressive feelings still exist underneath the affectionate exterior that merely masks the hate to hide it from awareness.
When an individual cannot deal with the demands of desires (including sex and love) and reality, anxiety follows. Freud believed that anxiety is an unpleasant inner state that people sought to avoid. In an attempt to protect ourselves from this anxiety, people employ reaction formation unconsciously in their daily lives. Reaction formation involves adopting opposite feelings, impulses or behavior. Someone adopting a reaction formation defense strategy would treat a spouse or loved one in the same manner in which they’d treat a hated enemy. Another example would be that two people really fond of each other fight all the time to suppress their desire of love for each other. This may also occur when there is a failure of acceptance that the other person is really important to them. To suppress their feelings for that person, they may resort to reaction formation and try to hate or fight with their loved ones to avoid the anxiety of not having them around. -Wikipedia.org
7. Repression
Psychological repression, or simply repression, according to Sigmund Freud's psychoanalytic theory, is the involuntary psychological act of excluding desires and impulses (wishes, fantasies or feelings) from one's consciousness and holding or subduing them in the unconscious. Since Freud's work in psychoanalysis, repression is now accepted as a defense mechanism by psychoanalytic psychologists; however, there remains some debate as to whether (or how often) repression really happens and mainstream psychology holds that true repression occurs only very rarely.
In the Primary Repression phase, an infant learns that some aspects of reality are pleasant, and others are unpleasant; that some are controllable, and others not. In order to define the “self”, the infant must repress the natural assumption that all things are equal. Primary Repression then is the process of determining what is self, what is other; what is good, and what is bad. At the end of this phase, the child can now distinguish between desires, fears, self, and others.[citation needed] Secondary Repression begins once the child realizes that acting on some desires may bring anxiety. This anxiety leads to repression of the desire. The threat of punishment related to this form of anxiety, when internalized becomes the superego, which intercedes against the desires of the id (which works on the basis of the pleasure principle) without the need for any identifiable external threat. This conflict manifests itself within the ego. Abnormal repression, or complex neurotic behavior involving repression and the superego, occurs when repression develops and/or continues to develop, due to the internalized feelings of anxiety, in ways leading to behavior that is illogical, self-destructive, or anti-social. A psychotherapist may try to reduce this behavior by revealing and re-introducing the repressed aspects of the patient's mental process to her or his conscious awareness, and then teaching the patient how to reduce any anxieties felt in relation to these feelings and impulses. -Wikipedia.org
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Blog of the year 2013
Dear Anna Rose, I must really thank you for awarding me for blog of the year. This is an immense honor considering how many blogs in the wordpress universe. It motivates me to get a nomination and reminds me to keep writing as it mightactually be helpful for someone to read. It gives me joy to think of people like you, that have their battles, but keep their head up with pride, even making other people happier, also. I appreciate you and your blog, as well, and hope lots of people will look at the blog you`ve worked so hard for (you deserve every nomination and praise)
Hugs from a touched norwegian
This award originated at the Thought Palette. Here are the instructions:
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Yes – that’s right – there are stars to collect! Unlike other awards which you can only add to your blog once – this award is different! When you begin you will receive the ‘1 star’ award – and every time you are given the award by another blog – you can add another star! There are a total of 6 stars to collect which means that you can check out your favorite blogs – and even if they have already been given the award by someone else – you can still bestow it on them again and help them to reach the maximum 6 stars!
My nominees:
Broken, but being repaired (I look forward to writing more with you. You are lovely)
Dating a sociopath: Her posts has helped me. Packed with information and understanding.
Crazy in the coconut: About surviving DID
Mostly true ramblings: Cute dog and funny pictures.
Ashokbhatia: For India, with love
.kindness blog (what an inspiration to visit this blog)
Behind the mask of abuse: Neatly organized
Synthetic order: Simply check it out.
Animal couriers: Sweet, little pets. We can`t do anything but love them
Trauma and dissociation: A woman with a mission who has started so many exciting projects. Thank you!
Both sides of the wall: The name, the layout and the content. All superb
Gotta find a home: A plight for the homeless. Some people are really special
Lexborgia: I love the hugging cactus! And I like you, too.
Blog for Mental Health 2013
I pledge my commitment to the Blog For Mental Health 2013 Project. I will blog about mental health topics not only for myself, but for others. By displaying this badge, I show my pride, dedication, and acceptance for mental health. I use this to promote mental health education in the struggle to erase stigma
I am 28 years old and live in Norway where I work as a psychologist. Although I`ve never had a diagnosis, I would have satisfied the criteria for depression about two or three times in my life. Love reading, travelling, work and experiencing new things. Also like taking photos and doing creative work,mike scrap booking and decoupage. Have also started a Facebook-group in my community with 1500 members, where People can meet each other doing exciting stuff for free. Love The Italian language, my family, Haruki murakami and my friends. I am a very emotional person, but calm when I have to be. Some might say I have a tendency to put myself second, and for that reason I have fought a long time to be as kind to myself as I can be towards others. Am now mostly happy and satisfied, and want to share what I know about overcoming challenges, following your dreams and live a good life!
I am pledging five of my fellow bloggers who have proven their mettle in my eyes as mental health bloggers.
Carrie Lange: A loyal reader who has stuggled with depression herself: http://littleblogoflettinggo.com
Alex, writing about different problems: Love. Life.
She has a interest for the important things in life: Beau Freedom
A man that shares others stories: Legion-writer
Joe, actually changing the world: Iamforchange’s Blog…
Amy, about her PTSD and mental health: Writing Thru Complex…
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