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Blog of the year 2013
Dear Anna Rose, I must really thank you for awarding me for blog of the year. This is an immense honor considering how many blogs in the wordpress universe. It motivates me to get a nomination and reminds me to keep writing as it mightactually be helpful for someone to read. It gives me joy to think of people like you, that have their battles, but keep their head up with pride, even making other people happier, also. I appreciate you and your blog, as well, and hope lots of people will look at the blog you`ve worked so hard for (you deserve every nomination and praise)
Hugs from a touched norwegian
This award originated at the Thought Palette. Here are the instructions:
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Blog of The Year 2013 Award
Yes – that’s right – there are stars to collect! Unlike other awards which you can only add to your blog once – this award is different! When you begin you will receive the ‘1 star’ award – and every time you are given the award by another blog – you can add another star! There are a total of 6 stars to collect which means that you can check out your favorite blogs – and even if they have already been given the award by someone else – you can still bestow it on them again and help them to reach the maximum 6 stars!
My nominees:
Broken, but being repaired (I look forward to writing more with you. You are lovely)
Dating a sociopath: Her posts has helped me. Packed with information and understanding.
Crazy in the coconut: About surviving DID
Mostly true ramblings: Cute dog and funny pictures.
Ashokbhatia: For India, with love
.kindness blog (what an inspiration to visit this blog)
Behind the mask of abuse: Neatly organized
Synthetic order: Simply check it out.
Animal couriers: Sweet, little pets. We can`t do anything but love them
Trauma and dissociation: A woman with a mission who has started so many exciting projects. Thank you!
Both sides of the wall: The name, the layout and the content. All superb
Gotta find a home: A plight for the homeless. Some people are really special
Lexborgia: I love the hugging cactus! And I like you, too.
The difference between Men and Women in the Mirror
It is now almost a year since I started this blog, and since then, the blog has published information about diverse topics related to psychology . Read the rest of this entry »
The versatile Blogger Award
Yesterday I was on a board-game tournament when I wanted to just check my blog, as I have become a real blog-addict lately. I love blogging, since I am fond of writing and find it very calming when I am upset. When I logged in this time, there was a pleasant surprise waiting. One of my readers had included me in the The Versatile Blogger Award (annarosemeeds.wordpress.com). I feel truly honored, since there is so many blogs out there, and I`m not even a native speaker, so I have discovered a lot of really horrible spelling mistakes and grammatical errors afterwards
Now, I am excited to pass on this award by nominating fifteen wonderful bloggers. Please see the rules and more information about the award by visiting The Versatile Blogger. When you get the award, there are some rules to read through.
VBA Rules
- Thank the person who gave you this award. That’s common courtesy.
- Include a link to their blog. That’s also common courtesy — if you can figure out how to do it.
- Next, select 15 blogs/bloggers that you’ve recently discovered or follow regularly. ( I would add, pick blogs or bloggers that are excellent!)
- Nominate those 15 bloggers for the Versatile Blogger Award — you might include a link to this site.
- Finally, tell the person who nominated you 7 things about yourself.
Since I got the award, I have to tell 7 things about myself to the person who nominates me.
I am not sure what my blogger-friend would like to know, but I guess I will focus on things I haven`t written before.
1. I am extremly clumsy. This is not an exaggeration, since even my patients have laughed about me in surprise of the degree of my slippery hands.
2. One of my dreams is to see the Taj Mahal
3. I love raspberries
4. I love travelling, and have been in many countries
5. In every country and city I go to, I buy a magnet with the countries name on, and put them on my refrigerator
6. I hate walking on rugs without socks
7. I have phobia against somebody drawing blood out of my body and always look away when people do
My nominees (in random order)
are:
1. Rose with Thorns. The wonderful girl who nominated me. Thanks so much for the award, and I like your posts too!
2. Ajaytao2010. I have been following this blogger for a long time and can recommend his posts:)
3. . ashokbhatia
A man from India who has family in Norway, and contacted me through the blog. I am extremly fond of travelling and meeting people from other cultures, and have especially found I like the Indian culture.
4. awax1217 or http://barrywax.wordpress.com/: You are a man I have come to really appreciate. You have given me feedsback I truly appreciate, and I have had the chance to read the first chapter of a really interesting crime novel that I look forward to read more about.
6. KINDNESS BLOG. A blog sharing small happy stories. Love it!
The true story about the author Salvadore. Over these years he went through a process of dissociation and reintegration, which no doubt, led to insights he later used to create the Eos Kernel. Since I am interested in dissociation, this is an interesting blog for me.
6. Sociopath World. One of the most interesting blogs I have encountered so far. It is written by a sociopath, who is very intelligent but honest about it. She deserves respect for spreading information, because this will potentially help others. She has chosen to do good, in spite of her “disorder” and
7.brokenbutbeingrepaired. I simply love this blogger already. She writes about her private pain, which is in itself admirable, but she also writes good! I often sit with tears in my eyes after reading her story. Its brutal and honest.
8 the daily headache. I know she gets a lot of rewards, but she really deserves it, too. She knows so much, and I have learnt a lot about people, respecting their histories, and how important it is to keep on fighting, even when you feel half-dead. Thank you, Ashana. I hope you find true happiness whereever you go.
9.Random Acts of Kindness. The title sais it all.
10 DBT Selfhelp. Lot of important information about self-help
11 nerd on the bridge. I like her sci-fi intelligence. Even if my brain can`t always keep up with her native english and language jokes, I still love her the same 🙂
12 About the Weird: This is really a funny and well-written blog. I love his style, his obvious underlying intelligence, and his ability to make the tragic a bit entertainable, so that the reader don`t feel completely overwhelmed and hopeless about the world. Thank you for sharing high-quality content, over and over again 😀
13.Gabriel Lucatero. I have worked together with this blogger, with sucess. He has written and published his own books, and I am really proud of him! Thank you for sharing !
14.A Bipolar Journey Through The Rabbit Hole. A lot of important information and quality posts here!
15. Crazy In The Coconut. I LOVE HER! She publishes so many important and brilliant posts. She suffers from DID and I wish I could take the pain away, but she fights like a pro, and she will continue that way for sure! Big hugs
My life as a psychologist: The start of this blog
It Is strange that it’s been 9 months since I started this blog. Since then when I was sure no one would be interested in reading my posts, I have found so many interesting people in the blog-sphere and some of them have really inspired me with their stories. I am so thankful for the comments and people actually finding inspiration here: Seeing how much horror there can be in the world, it means so much to feel able to do some small things to make it better.
For new readers who haven’t followed me from the beginning, I present what I wrote for the first time on this blog. I knew nothing about blogging, and was so anxious. But I continued, and now I can’t imagine that I’ll ever quit. Thank you, faithful followers, and welcome
To those who have just found this
Blog. I am absolutely thrilled when I get feedback, both good and ‘bad’, so don’t feel afraid of contacting me. I believe in friendships across borders.
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Narrative: Introduction
NARRATIVE OF MY LIFE: INTRODUCTION
Posted on September 21, 2012 by mirrorgirlMany people wonder: Where do I begin when they get the chance to tell their story. Since I work with people every day, I have heard many variants, and I will personally choose the `overview` variant to give you an idea of who I am and how I became that way. I am already, in the age of 26 (27 tomorrow) eager to share my story, and hope this might give me many fascinating stories in return.
I have always been interested in other people. I guess that explains hours spent on movies, reading and reality shows. Today I work with what I love, talking to people from 8-16 as a therapist. People often ask : Don’t you get tired of it? My answer still is: No! Even if I read hundred books, I never get tired of that either. Some books are better than others of course, but I love it when I find something that manage to surprise me, and humans never stop to amaze me. Every person has their own personality, that you usually grasp automatically based on intuition, that unexplained x-factor that make you love and hate, sometimes because of unknown reasons. To hear how someone became like they are, is like opening a gift box. You may have an inkling of what might come, but it never ceases to surprise me. It can be a touching description of somebody’s day, for example how they worried that their mother would be hit by a car, or a summary of their childhood. It can be how they talk, dress and behave, and even better, when you get to share a moment of transformation in the therapy room.
I feel in many ways that I have an essence, but outwardly and inwardly I have also changed a lot. When I look at video-camera footage of myself, I almost get a bit ashamed. Was that me? How could I be so obnoxious? The same thing happens when I look at my writing from back then. I could not understand what I did wrong, now it blinks and announces itself with great vigor, and I have to smile at how pleased I was then.I hope my life story will be an inspiration and a journey inside my mind. It’s full of sad, happy and normal memories, but I know nobody out there has exactly the same story as me, in that case I would like to meet you very much! If you have questions along the way, please feel free to ask.
How to help others (and yourself)
It can be very annoying when people talk about doing something good for others, because sometimes we know that it`s good, but just not WHAT to do. So, what about making a list over small things one can do for others ? Feel free to supplement this list. More parts are coming later
1. This girl donates her hair for people with cancer.
In the next few weeks, I will cut off 8-12 inches of my hair and donate it to Pantene Beautiful Lengths. This is an amazing cause where women grow strong, together. Check back for pictures by summer’s end. I originally donated my hair to honor CMD who was diagnosed with spinal cancer when I was in high school. This will be my third time donating to Pantene Beautiful Lengths and it is my way of changing someone’s life, for the better. At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter how much hair I have or how I look without it. What matters is that someone is benefiting from the wig that my hair contributed to and feeling beautiful again (http://jhemway.wordpress.com/2013/07/01/10-change-someones-life-for-the-better/).@
Stories about people saved by organ donation:
- A little six-year-old boy regained his eyesight and an ex-fireman has a younger and healthy heart.
- I have corresponded by mail and e-mail with the 37-year-old man who has one of James’ kidneys. I hope someday we can meet each other, but right now we live too far away to do that.
- Last year at the annual Giving and Living Celebration at the Southwest Transplant Alliance, we met a woman who was 47 and near death when she received James’ liver and other kidney. She told me when she was in her coma for over two months, she felt like she was on a ship in the middle of an ocean alone. She could hear people talking but they were far away. How can I adequately describe the feeling when we met? She was like meeting a long lost relative that I had never met before. It was wonderful and overwhelming. She is a precious lady who has had to battle with a tremendous amount of physical problems and has a young child at home.
Small Changes Which Can Make a Big Difference
Photo by Shermeee
Set Your Alarm Half an Hour Earlier
There’s never enough time in the day – especially when you want to start something new. Maybe you’d love to write a novel, take up exercise, or have time to pray or meditate.
simply setting your alarm half an hour earlier? An extra 30 minutes in the morning, before you go out to work, could make all the difference. Write a plan about how you can do something good for someone that day. If 30 minutes is to rough, get up 15 min. before
One of the simplest tricks for drinking more water is to keep a bottle of it on your desk. It’s easy to take a swig regularly if you’ve got water in arm’s reach – and if you keep the cap on the bottle, there’s no chance of a spillage.
Hide the Television Remote (and Keep a Book by the Couch)
Photo by Helga Weber
There’s nothing wrong with watching television. But for many of us, the TV becomes a default activity. It’s all too easy to come home, slump on the couch, and reach straight for the remote without even thinking. Increasing knowledge really can help you become more aware and conscious, which in return will make you more able to think for yourself
If that’s a habit you’re trying to break, put the remote somewhere else. Hide it in a cupboard or on a high shelf. That way, you’ll have to make a real decision to watch television.
You can go even further with this by putting a book that you want to read, or something else you want to get on with, next to the couch.
1. Say “Good morning” to a person standing next to you in the elevator.
2. Put a coin in an expired meter.
3. Help a mother carry her baby stroller up the subway stairs, or hold a door open for her. Read more: http://www.oprah.com/spirit/35-Little-Acts-of-Kindness#ixzz2XoULqvjz
4. Pay the toll for the driver behind you.
5. Vote. While the Presidential election comes around only once every four years, elections happen every year. Check out the candidates for local and state elections.
6. Encourage your employer to sponsor local events, join a civic organization or allow employees to volunteer during work hours. Many businesses have volunteer programs to reward employees for volunteering. Local news
Switch Your Light Bulbs for Energy-Saving Ones
Suffering eco-guilt? A lot of us want to do our bit for the planet – but we don’t know where to start. One of the simplest steps is to switch all your standard light bulbs for energy-saving ones. It’s not only much better for the environment, it’ll also save you money on your electric bill.
Be a good example!
(http://www.thechangeblog.com/gratitude) Last year millions of people took the challenge proposed by Will Bowen, a Kansas City minister, to go 21 days without complaining, criticizing, or gossiping. To help condition the participants to stop complaining, they each wore a purple No-Complaint wristband. Several authors in the self-improvement genre have suggested that people do something similar to help condition themselves to be constantly aware of the things in life that they’re grateful for.
The sound of validation
http://occupyourhomes.org/
This blog is about inspiration. A lot of us want to make our life and others better, every day. Some of us get together and actually fight for this. But; There is often too little time, too much effort and a feeling of helplessness surrounding us when it comes to this. I have the belief, that we today have enough knowledge to actually "make the world a better place". We are capable 
of flying to other planets, making food out of nothing, and curing diseases that people died of before. Still, as we see in the media every day, more and more people suffer. The division between rich and poor grows, and the news show us all the other dark sides: Rape, murder, corrupted politicians and war. After reading "no need to envy", a book about North-Korea: A country were some of the worst conditions imaginable actually exists, I felt anger soaring inside me. That some leaders can try to actually accomplish so much suffering today, is simply terrible. This rage led to a lot of thoughts and ideas, that I now share with the readers of this blog. If just one of you thinks this is a good idea, I would love to know.
PROJECT VALIDATION
To introduce the idea, I will ask everyone to watch this short movie first. Even if it takes 18 minutes of your time, I really promise it is worth it (psychologists honor)
We go about our everyday lives wanting things to always be getting better. We hope that our work makes a difference and those who came before us are proud and we wish for our children to have more than what we were given. As anyone knows who has heard Martin Luther King Jr.’s famous speech—delivered fifty years ago this August~ dreams are at the center of any effort to make things better. And today we have something with more power than we might realize: The internet. It’s not without reason that China and North-Korea tried to keep their inhabitants away from news. The media also have immense power, and even if some might argue that they focus on the wrong things (making thin the new fashion, ignoring many crises out there) there still is so many good journalists out there, who really want to make the world a better place. Combine the knowledge, motivation the internet and the media and you have a wonderful recipe: People who actually do something.
So, this is all well and fine, but how does this help? What can I DO? If you have watched the movie, I give an option. Like we all help the world by sorting our paper and throw it in a separate garbage bin, thereby saving the rainforest, what about spreading validation around to others ? What happens when someone smiles at us? Research shows that our mirror-neurons respond automatically by creating a smile on your own lips. This means that smiling AT someone, actually MAKE them happier. Research also shows that being happy yourself, gives you more energy to be there for others. So, like in the video, I would challenge the readers of this blog to do JUST one nice thing for somebody else (preferably a stranger, because that would have the biggest impact) the next week. When you have done that, write WHAT you did, and if you want, leave your email at the end. This will be like signing a petition for releasing a political prisoners. For every one of you who does that, you might have made the world just a little better. This is what your story means: You are signing a petition for a better world!
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Related articles
- 2013 My 100 Day Challenge (my100daychallenge.com)
- (never stop dreaming!) http://www.lollydaskal.com/leadership/lolly-daskal-i-have-a-dream/
- Validation: You can change things (forfreepsychology.wordpress.com)
- A women who writes brilliantly about how to think for yourself and fight for what others say is “naïve”: http://theoeditrix.com/2013/06/24/im-naive-not-stupid-theres-a-difference/
- http://www.austinchronicle.com/news/2013-06-21/the-mad-men-senate-votes-to-impose-new-abortion-limits/
- http://www.dpsinfo.com/
- https://www.facebook.com/TheValidationProject
http://ageer370.wordpress.com/i-have-a-dream-the-metaphoric-power-of-martin-luther-king/
Proudly presents
Some mornings I wake up with a volcano inside me, full of ideas that long for their release. My brain is burning. I woke up slowly, and far to late, but felt so good. Just did things like play with things on the floor, looking out at the room without trying to find anything specific, and felt everything about this nothingness that is my life. I love all of it, the little spider I found in my drawer, the one sock lying relaxed on my floor and the cool feel of the blanket over my foot. I love it all, because it means I`m alive. I went to the bathroom and then my brain took over. It was a volcano eruption of ideas, and I wrote them all hastingly 
fast down on a piece of paper. The one that pushed all my inner lava forwards, was “project validation”. It started with the thoughts I had in connection with talking to my American friend, who watched the video “validation”, showed it to her sister, who was inspired and actually did something nice for a man the next day. I was thinking, stories like these need more focus, not just everything that is WRONG in the world.
I truly believe stories like that have the ability to inspire people to do good things themselves, and I will personally equip myself with small bombs, machetes, guns and a safety west for battling down the fear that tries to stop me, from doing what I feel is right. I continued the thought on spreading hope, and thought maybe we should ask if every reader does something nice for someone else, and then write WHAT they did on this blog. This would be positive news, and an example of how small efforts can have big effects. For every thing we do, we have to ask that person to do something for one other person. A little like the movie “pay it forward”. Then I thought: Why not make this a BLOG project, spreading it everywhere. It is like earth hour in that everyone just does one small thing, but it might have a huge effect. I even thought about telling it to my work (we have places where people stay for days and weeks, what if we had “good morning” rounds where everyone shared with the group something they liked with the others? ).
I actually did that when we were on the work-related trip: We sat drinking and joking and started to say something I liked with every one of them. They followed up, and I found it really touching.
For that reason I have now started a new blog, called forfreepsychology.wordpress.com
I made a twitter profile, and a facebook page and am now working with getting guest writers and finding interesting news that encourage people to help themselves and others. If you want to, check it out, and if someone have an important and inspirering story to tell, contact me here or send an email at forfreepsychology@gmail.com
The sound of management
Aside Posted on Updated on
In the book I am reading, I have come to the people behind the problem of trafficking. What scares me is how much they earn by using other people, and not giving them profit in return, and their close connection to politics. Examples are the Yakuza in Japan, and politicians in Pakistan.
Slaves are forced to work for their “master” or “owner” and cannot get free. Sexual slaves are forced to work as prostitutes. The masters or pimps use violence, threats, blackmail and other methods to reduce the woman’s self worth and self esteem until eventually she will not try to escape because of fear or mental trauma. Sexual slavery is a way for a man to make a lot of money and to feel powerful. Society rewards people with power and wealth so unfortunately sexual slavery may continue until society values caring and sharing above all else. Women are trying to alter men’s attitudes towards violence and abuse of power and this is gradually having an effect. There are now shelters for abused women and heavier fines for pimps but there is a very long way to go yet.
http://otrazhenie.wordpress.com/2013/05/09/nothing-in-life-is-to-be-feared/
Vulnerable people, usually poor, are deceived or forced into working abroad with promises of a better life. When they get there their passports are taken off them, they are forced to work behind locked doors and beaten or starved if they refuse. Sometimes they are killed and the threat of murder is always there. Their “masters” or “owners” make money by forcing them to work in sweatshops, dangerous jobs or as prostitutes. If the victim manages to get to the police, she is often not helped because she has no documents or the crime is not taken seriously. Because she is likely to be deported to her own country where she will probably be murdered, she doesn’t usually try to contact the authorities and so human trafficking continues to grow.
Women and girls are at particular risk of becoming victims of trafficking due to diverse factors, such as the high global prevalence of violence and discrimination against women; unequal access to education and the consequent lack of good employment opportunities which may render women more susceptible to false promises of work abroad; the lack of legal channels of entry for unskilled workers; and sex-selective migration policies.
The ILO estimates that women and girls represent the largest share of forced labor victims with 11.4 million victims (55%), compared to 9.5 million (45%) men and boys. The International Organization for Migration (IOM) estimates that 500,000 women are trafficked into prostitution each year.
on this side (on the bottom) you find small but important things you can do, like spreading information and signing petitions.
Mirrorgirl 
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