Writing my book

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It’s been a while since I’ve been written here. That’s not a bad thing, since my priorities has been elsewhere. In October I started writing a book, concentrating on writing for half an hour each day. It’s been a new experience to finally knit a story together, seeing it becoming a book by taking one step at a time. The next weeks will be devoted to check for spelling mistakes and correct things, and then I finally will have a book created by me.

Other than that I’ve read a lot, and work has been more relaxed since I have been in a process of changing who I work with. I will work with psychosis and will be a group therapist, so I’m currently reading and learning a lot. I still have some trauma-patients, and like that. In my heart I never want to quit working with trauma, and I think that will be achievable. Patients who have been psychotic often have been traumatized as well.

That will be all for now! Hope all my readers are doing well, and I would love to hear from you!

Being thankful 

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One way to feel better, is to practice thankfulness. I’ve either hear or read about collecting memories of what you are thankful for, and looking back at them at the end of the year. I don’t just want to practice what I preach when I tell clients what might be useful, so I have started my own thankful collection in January. Instead of using a jar or a box, I am working on a decoupaged book where is will put scraps of paper with that days events written on them. 

I can already feel how meaningful this is. By using just one minute every day to reflect on what’s good in my life, I feel grateful. It also boosts my mood, and I like to believe it also inspires me to do even more of what I love. I’ve also discovered a trend: What I write down and remember is when I’m with other people. I’ve written down things they have said and what we have done together. So for me, that’s what I’m most thankful for. 

There are myriads of ways to do this little excersise. Use your imagination and keep trying to record what is good in your life. There will always be something: For someone with depression it might be that they managed to take a walk. For traumatized individuals it might be a kind word, or the absence of flashbacks. For the anxious, it can be going into a supermarket with a thumping heart.

The Liebster Awards: My life as a psychologist

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Thank you “Locked Thoughts” for nominating me for the Liebster Awards. She has a wonderful blog, so be sure to check it out!

I am always grateful when I`m nominated for awards. It is a bit unreal: I stumble forward in the blogosphere, trying to share my thoughts about psychology and trauma without too many writing errors. But apparently, some readers are satisfied with what I am producing. I hope this blog has been an inspiration or interesting read for you, especially since I soon will take some time off from blogging to concentrate on writing a book version of this blog. But first things first: I will answer the questions Locked Thoughts gave me, and nominate my 11 blogs for the rewards. If you are nominated, you will find the rules at the end of the post. I would love to nominate more blogs, but rules are rules! But know that I appreciate all my readers.

My answers to Locked Thoughts questions:

1) What is that inanimate object you may like to change yourself into? A good book.

2) Do you like chameleons? Yes, they are fascinating!

3) Do you like yourself? Be it yes or no, why? I guess we all have sides we like and sides we don`t. Mostly I am proud of who I am today, but occasionally I don`t like myself. Especially when I think about some memories of my past. But then I remember I did not know then, what I know now.
4) What or who makes you happy? In other words, What is your source of happiness? My friends and family. And following my dreams
5) What is better? Sea or forest? Why? The Sea. Is there anything more calming than the waves and the endlessness of it all?
6) If you were to live in another place other than your birthplace, where would that be? Italy! I am learning the language, and have travelled there many times. I will move there at some point.
7) Considering you had the power to establish a new norm or new idea in this society of ours, what would that be? That everyone should try to do one random act of kindness to another every week.
8) Does gore scare you? Yes? No? Why? Depends! I have a blood phobia, but otherwise I am not easily scared by what the body produces.
9) If you had to have one of your body part amputated, what would that be?
In other words, What body part can you live without? My brain, no question!
10) What keeps you going? My idealism and need to heal.
11) What is your idea about death? I don`t want to die. But when I do, I want to die knowing that I followed all my dreams and did everything I could for the people I love.

11 random facts about me:

  • I have tryphophobia
  • I must sprinkle everything with salt
  • I have travelled to Europe, Asia, Africa and America.
  • I am half-german
  • I love buying shoes and have far too many
  • I listen to audiobooks every day
  • I like my “patients” so much I sometimes find it hard to let them go.
  • I am extremely clumsy
  • I always multi-task
  • I have tried Yoga, but not felt that it was for me
  • I love playing board-games

My nominees (in random order):

1. I recently discovered this blog: “I sing the body electric” and can really relate to it

2. The journey of my left foot. We have been following each other for a while, and I truly appreciate his feedback and writing

3. Dave Dubay. A man with a lot of questions he tried to answer. A really interesting blog!

4. A plot for thoughts. Many interesting posts here!

5. Anthony Turi. A friend, inspirator and idol of mine.

6. The daddy blitz. If you want to read advice about child-rearing or simply want to read quality-post, this blog is it!

7. Barrywax. One of my most loyal readers. I have read his book, and am always in awe when it comes to his writing-skills and intelligent mind.

8. Musings of a man woman. This is a brilliant blog, so just be sure to check it out!!

9. Therapy Views. A blog from a therapist. Very interesting and packed with information about everything!

10.The world according to Dina. Norwegian blogger who speaks right to my heart.

11. A bipolar journey through the rabbit hole. Even the name of the blog shines with brilliance.


My questions:

  1. If you could do one thing that you always have dreamt of, what would it be?
  2. What makes you calm?
  3. Have you done random acts of kindness?
  4. What really irritates you?
  5. What music do you like?
  6. What is the most extreme thing you have done?
  7. Do you prefer to be alone or with others?
  8. What is your best memory?
  9. What is the best book you have read?
  10. What is your favorite animal?
  11. What scares you?

Things to do when nominated :
1) Thank the blogger who nominated you ( As if that’s a news. That’s basic courtesy.-_-)
2) Display the award somewhere on your blog or post. ( Yes. You are right. Show it off fellas)
3) Answer the set of 11 questions provided to you by the blogger. (Courtesy)
4) Post 11 random facts about yourself. (Avoid things like, ‘I can brush’, I mean that’s cool random stuff but eh… okay fine you can.)
5) Choose 11 bloggers below 1000 followers (Partiality. :3 )
6) Create your own set of questions for the nominees.
~The End~


Blog of the year reward


Encouraging thunder

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I want to thank Akiraa for awarding me with the encouraging thunder blog and will pay it forward.

  • What can you do with the award?
    • Post it on your blog.
    • Grant other bloggers with the award.

    What you can’t do with the award?

    • Abuse or misuse the logo.
    • Claim that it’s your own handmade logo.

    What you should do after receiving award:

    • Enjoy the award
    • At least gives thanks via comments and likes and or mentioning the blog who gave the award.
    • Mention your purpose in blogging

My purpose with blogging, is to inspire people on topics related to psychology. I have blogged for 4 years, and have met so many great bloggers that it will be hard to just chose a few blogs to nominate in return.

I would like to nominate:


The worst kind of sadness 

Kindness Blog

Lard wants world peace


TED: Ideas worth spreading  

Dennis Cardiff

The world according to Dina
Anthony Turi 

Unerd on the bridge 

World Of Lorize. 

Animal couriers

Do you have any blog-posts related to psychology you would like to have in a book?

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Like some of you know, I am working on a book version of this blog. After 500 posts I have shared my own reflections and reblogged interesting posts. But, I want the book to entail a number of posts written by others, so if you write about psychology and would like to share those posts, write a comment or an email (forfreepsychology@gmail.com). Feel free to add a link to the post you are especially proud of. You can share your own struggle With mental illness, or more theoretical posts. You can also share your thought on the Health care system, or on society at large.

I am looking forward to hear from you!

uten navn

Writing a book: My life as a psychologist

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This year I have been working on my very own book. it will be a collection of the blog posts that I`ve written so far, and I need your help to choose which posts I shall include or not. You can either contact me with recommendations (forfreepsychology@gmail.com) or comment on this post. I also need someone to proof read the book after it`s done, and will pay the person willing to do so. Let me know if you are interested!


Me, Myself & Trauma

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Do you know that feeling when you just have to write, write and write until you feel calm and normal again?
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I was never good at expressing myself. I had the tendency to tell a story with thousand associations that made it impossible to follow my points. I tried to nervously knit words together, but failed.
When I wrote, words finally expressed what I wanted to say. It made sense, not only to me, but to others as well. Today I think this has to do with how we need to connect logic with emotions. When I try to say something, while feeling nervous at the same time, nervousness wins, and halts the effortless stream of consciousness.
It is almost like riding a bike; If you suddenly get nervous and start to doubt if you actually remembered how to keep your balance, you might fall. The interesting thing is, I know this from experience ! When I was in Vietnam, I tried to take part in a nice bike tour through beautiful fields. It was the first time I rode a bike in years, so I felt unsteady from the start. This actually led to a comic situation!I managed to drive into a hole on a huge road with many opportunities to avoid it. Why? Because I was nervous about it. I thought: Must avoid a crisis. Must NOT steer into the hole!

There is always light at the end of the tunnel. Just look up, and you will see it
And suddenly: There I was: Tumbling down the hillside together with my bike! The result was bewilderment, laughter and grass in my hair, and it illustrates my point: I must feel calm and them I can express whatever I want.
Driving. When will be get there?
Writing is like water when walking in a desert. Necessary and just what I need.
Life is like dancing while keeping your balance

On my free time I work with "Aktiviteter i Førde"
In my free time I work with “Aktiviteter i Førde”


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My baby. See the blog at http://lovefreepsychology.blogspot.no for interviews and inspiration
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Stress can be healthy in certain circumstances..

Happy! I live in the most beautiful country, so how could I not be?
This is post number 400. I like the feeling that tickles me, when I think about that. I`ve managed to write a lot, about everything from my work to personal experiences. I`ve reblogged some posts that I needed to share, and even ventured into unknown territories by writing about politics and other subjects were my knowledge is on a hypothetical level.
I love science, but i also love personal stories and the magic of small moments that can`t be researched. Science and the magic of personal experiences, is what makes life exciting. We need some general schemas (science helps with that) but they don`t work if we don`t test  them. What good is knowing that something is bad or wonderful, if you never felt those emotions?
I am so glad I have seen both good and bad, ugly and pretty, and challenged myself by exploring different belief systems.
I love to not know things, even when it scares me.
This was an uncommonly reflective post. Its one of those times where you just have to write and write, without stopping. It`s one of those times when you feel alive and calm at the same time.
This was my post number 400! Hope you enjoyed it.
Thanks to all my followers for reading and commenting. I truly appreciate it.
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The sound of two years passing

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It has already been two years! 378 posts, 55 drafts and 2 scheduled. It has been a great journey, and it still is!
A big thank you to all my readers. I hope you´ve found something of interest here. If something is missing, or need to get better, I would be delighted to hear your thoughts!
Happy Anniversary!